I got to thinking about apologies today. What are they? What are they good for? It seems to me that an apology is a way of accepting blame. And blame, it seems to me, is a combination of causal responsibility and moral failing. In other words if you rearend somebody because of their error, you may have caused the accident, but they are to blame. But if you rearend them because of your error, you are to blame.
But what is this "blame" we throw around? Where is this moral failing? I honestly can't see it anymore. All I see is causation. Causation by stupidity, impulsiveness, mental illness, or something else ... but only causation.
And if there is no blame, can there be any apology? I don't think so. I think an apology without blame means nothing at all.
So I'm going to stop asking for apologies. I may stop giving them. Instead, causation. We'll see how that works.
A Farewell and Remembrance
5 months ago